How to get over your ex, the tested method.
Don’t act like you don’t care that doesn’t actually mean you’re healing or have healed
While still fresh communicate your pain.
Let it all out until you just don’t want to waste another breath on them because you are mentally exhausted by the mere thought of them. This may be by talking to a therapist, writing a blog, or journal, talking to a confidant who’s willing to listen, Making Instagram posts or videos, or Tik Tok videos.
If you want to do it privately you can open a ranting page. Because going through means taking the contain it girl, mask off, feeling all your feelings. It’s nothing to be ashamed of because it means you're capable of loving deeply and a lot of people are looking for that kind of love to be given to them.
Male validation
Since most people have a hoe phase, this can looks different but does somehow boost some self-confidence your ex broke. This depends on a woman, but I wouldn’t recommend blatantly sleeping around because I heard it can leave you feeling bad about yourself after. The way I found works is having guy buddies who though are sexually attracted to you, you do not sleep with.
Thus this group of people will constantly remind you of how beautiful and amazing you are, and listen to you regarding your ex because they like you enough to. Plus you need to vent. Do not get attached though just take the feel-good conversations and be mindful that they are just a friend.
P. S it has to be a soft guy who’s attractive in your books. That you’d probably date if you were not hurting. But don’t have feelings for and you shouldn’t allow them to grow either. Whether you wish to date them after you have healed is your decision but I’d recommend a new page because people are not the same in dating as they are being your friend. Plus you’ve probably had enough time to assess their dating flaws if you know them 1year plus.
Convince yourself you're not going to see them again.
Sounds a bit much but you need to assume that they are no longer in the world of the living gone. This means you either put yourself in a situation where you’re not gonna bump into them again by moving if they live close. Or make your brain understand this by assuming if you bump into them, it’s just a doppelganger. This way you un-attach the feeling to a face. It’s like psychologically re-programming your mind.
Realize their presence is pain and associate them with pain
You have to realize that hanging on to them is depleting you or stagnating your life. If you don’t start accepting it’s over permanently and throwing all maybes out the window. It will drag on for a couple of years. If they already took a couple of your ripe years, why let them have more in a period where you could meet somebody awesome and be happier than you thought you could.
Associating them with pain is also realizing that all that pain isn’t good for your general and mental health. Do you want to have a life ulcer for a man who’s happily banging something that’s not even half the woman you are, no care in the world that they made you a love oath they never kept?
You’re not losing something you’ll never find again, you’re letting go of something that’s sucking the life out of you.
Most importantly if you allow yourself to keep longing for the connection, stalk them, you sharing your energy or aura with them. The more you share the bigger theirs gets and the more yours turns into a sick mal nutritioned puppy.
It’s like working your butt off then dropping all your paycheck to their mansion mailbox and returning to your mud hut that doesn’t even have a stool in it to sit on. Truth is yes it is ruining you, babe. Keep a record of how long you go without talking or stalking their socials. Yes, you will fall a couple of times but just keep starting again. Eventually, you’ll be doing months then years.
So whenever you want to check up on them remember the pain and how you wish it’d stop and how that is all they can give you because you can’t change who a person is. And if you can master this, you can start sampling other people. You’ll come to realize what he couldn’t be for you another effortlessly can and your not losing anything by letting them go but rather instead, laying down the stress you don’t need.
If you’re religious pray about it
It brings immense healing when you take it to a higher power for some while doing the work as well. And if you are religious, you know your higher power always comes through for you and will in this too. So do not stop praying for your healing or let it shake your faith until you’re healed. Everything happens for a reason and in due time the reason reveals itself when you least expect it.
In conclusion, the right one is still out there for you, so get rid of the dude blocking your future. You need to understand and live in this because there are some awesome people out there praying for a you that can be what he wasn’t plus extra in sweet and sappy. If he really loved you he would have been more careful in order to not lose you.
